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Your health is more important than your work

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Ask anyone who works with me and they will tell you that I’m the least stressed person they know. There are more difficult, higher pressure jobs, but my job is busy — the kind of busy where the work never stops coming and lunch breaks are sometimes hypothetical.

Even when I am apocalyptically busy, I don’t show it on the outside — like a swan, I’m gracefully gliding on the surface but peddaling furiously underneath.

Or at least that used to be the case.

I’ve been working at home since last March due to the pandemic. And although I do…

Let’s stop pretending we have a connection with celebrities beyond the transactional.

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I like John Mulaney. Although I should probably rephrase that: I like John Mulaney’s comedy. I like his persona, I like the version of himself he presents at the microphone. Because I don’t know John Mulaney the real person. The same goes for most of his fans. He’s someone we see at a distance at a comedy show, on TV or online. He’s not our friend.

And yet, paying attention to the online discourse around what’s been a heck of a year for the guy — a stint writing for Late Night, rehab, a divorce, a new relationship with actress…

Giving your kids the connection they crave doesn’t have to be difficult. Washing the dishes together helped me reconnect with my daughter.

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It had been one of those Sundays. The weather outside miserable and grey, reflecting my own, a strange anxious irritability. There was no particular reason for it, beyond perhaps the general background tiredness that every parent of a toddler knows is just part of their life. But on this Sunday, I was failing to be the dad I want to be.

My daughter wasn’t doing anything out of the ordinary, but her usual two-year-old behaviour — insisting on putting her wellies on before she was dressed, asking for foods we didn’t have, getting upset at being unable to have two…

It can be a real challenge not to raise your voice in the heat of the moment

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We’ve all done it. Every single one of us has said “I’m not going to shout at my child” when dreaming about the ideal parent we’re going to be, and then every one is us has broken that rule when the actual reality of being a parent hits.

It’s easily done. In fact, even as I write this I can tell you that I shouted “stop it!” at my two-year-old earlier this evening. I was cooking chilli and brown rice on the stove. She wanted toast, but also wanted a snack to tide her over while the bread was toasting…

There’s no easy way to grow your following, you have to put the work in.

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When Medium makes changes its writers react. It’s understandable. While for some this is a hobby, for others partner program earnings are a useful side hustle and for others still a full time career. We’re all bound to have thoughts when Medium makes changes to how we earn (and how much we earn).

The problem is most reactions come after the announcements but before anything has actually taken place. Some writers hate the changes. Some like them. …

What to consider when an editor asks if they can republish your work

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It’s an exciting rush the first time you get an email from an editor asking if they can republish one of your stories on their website.

Finally, your work has been seen!

But is it as simple as saying “yes" to what looks like a thrilling opportunity?

Not always. Here are some things to consider before jumping in. I’ve had some approaches recently about my own Medium pieces, and here are the things I’ve thought about.

You (Probably) Won’t Get Paid

It probably goes without saying, but generally a website asking to republish existing work, be it from Medium or your own blog, won’t be…

We’re all stressed out, and we just want to comfort watch

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If you’ve been on the internet in the last week or so, you’ll have heard about, or seen, the trailer for Spider-Man: No Way Home, the third film in the Spider-Man link up between Sony and Marvel Studios that brought the webslinger into the Marvel Cinematic Universe (MCU).

Rumours have been around what feels like years about the plot of the film, which many expected would bring the “multiverse” out of the pages of the comic books and onto the big screen. Two actors who previously donned the spidey-suit, Tobey Maguire and Andrew Garfield, have denied talk that they would…

Small successes are harder to remember than the screw-ups

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Parenting is a tough job. I know there are people still living in the dark ages who don’t think it’s a “job” at all, but I can guarantee stay-at-home parents work harder than most people who sit at a computer chair all day — and a parent can’t clock off at 5pm. The lockdowns have given me a taste of it, so I know it’s hard (even though it’s still my dream job).

It’s tough, and the social media age has made it tougher. A lot of parents worry they are doing the wrong thing, and this worry is exacerbated…

A lesson learned after a bedtime meltdown

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“Mommy!” was the cry from my two-year-old daughter. “Where mommy gone?” she wailed.

It was bedtime. Slightly later than bedtime, in fact, when my wife came home from a long shift at work and cake upstairs to say hi to our tired toddler. Then she went back downstairs to fetch our girl a drink and her favourite cuddly toy.

I stayed upstairs with her — and that’s when she got upset. No amount of telling her that mommy would be right back helped. She was on the bed, throwing her head back like something out of The Exorcist.

I did…

Does anyone other than us care about this stuff?

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First, the elephant in the room: I know it’s ridiculous for me to publish an article on Medium complaining about other writers on Medium writing about Medium. So let’s get that out of the way.

Second, I must have partially brought this on myself, but the reason I write this is because the Medium algorithm is constantly recommending articles about Medium to me.

I know it must be me. I must be clicking on them and reading (though if I am very few have stuck in my mind) otherwise they wouldn’t be picked for me. …

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